Only time "every thing happens for a reason" is acceptable

To be or not to be

"It is what it is" is acceptable when that's an acceptable state. Sure, experiencing "it" is the "why"... BUT if what u are experiencing sucks, there's an existentialism of moving on up to another plane of existence! A BETTER one!

so, "it is what it is" w.o a "2-level why" is a defeatist explanation!